fear of orgasm: why?

mekekelo

Max9

Well, the experience of an orgasm might really be the beginning of a girl to discover her slutty side

What is a "slutty side" and how does an orgasm "start" this?

Max9

mekekelo Well, I think we all have hobbies or sides of our personality that we do discover by the time.

mekekelo

Foxies

But clearly it happens within the law, as several poor girls here will testify.

I don't think this happens within the law, most of the cases here are secret from the public, and remain secret only because of fear of the consequences if action was taken.

a_father

mekekelo And we may read about it in some years in newspaper, when the children of today make public what has happened to them. Good luck for the parents.

a_father

Christine Well, the way you act at the moment ensures, you'll never have responsibility for children, because you'll never have some. So you'll never have to think about what I write here.

Angelina

Joh I agree with that but it doesn't mater. You live in Germany and the German law applies. If you are in a different country it could be legal. This is all was I am talking about.

and i live in my father's house and there our family laws apply, that's what i mean when i say that there can be differences between my behaviour in public (according to the german laws) and my behaviour in PRIVATE.

Joh and don't push some morality to legitimise it.

it is quite simple, his house has its rules. if i own a house later, my house has my rules. I can discuss everything with my father (and I do it very often), but he makes the final decision.

Christine Daddy, why r u so boring?

😂

a_father when the children of today make public what has happened to them.

i'm trying to ask in a different way, what exactly do i get out of it ? i'm not a person who seeks revenge

a_father

Angelina What, if your girfriend breaks with you and makes it public? What, if you have other problems with your father in future? The safest thing about the future is that it hasn't happened yet. What you take for granted today may no longer apply in the future. When I try to look back at myself at the age of 17, I find that many things have changed my mind.
Maybe you need to protect your own daughter from your father. In such a case, you will always prefer your own child to the father

Joh

Angelina and i live in my father's house and there our family laws apply, that's what i mean when i say that there can be differences between my behaviour in public (according to the german laws) and my behaviour in PRIVATE.

Yes, I know and I know you accepted it. But this was not the point. Your family rules can never be an excuse to break the law which applies to you. In worst case you have to face the consequences.

Angelina

a_father

i don't know what will happen in the future, i can roughly plan my future, but of course i have to make the decision based on the current situation and acting differently now would do me more harm than good.

a_father Maybe you need to protect your own daughter from your father. In such a case, you will always prefer your own child to the father

my father does not have to interfere in the upbringing of my children, no matter what he thinks of my way of upbringing.

Joh Your family rules can never be an excuse to break the law which applies to you.

i disagree, i'll give you an example. my father has the right under german law to tell me who i can date until i'm 18, that means he can tell me that i can't date camryn anymore, but at the same time it's illegal for him to use a chastity belt to allow dating but stop me from having sex. it makes absolutely no sense why one is legal and the other isn't and as long as there are major contradictions at this point, it's not acceptable. and to be clear, this is not an argument for the belt, it is only about the contradiction in the law that is unacceptable.

Vanessa

Ines it would add more pressure to the boiler, so he will face a lioness later

I agree!😉

Ines It avoids we arrive pure for our loved man, (and he does not deserve it) , it drives to a selfish and brat behavior ( I want it so I have to get it, when we must await calmly to achieve some things), it will drive us to bad behavior ( and in this sense all my friends and girls here say the same, orgasms are very pleasurable and addictive).

I don't agree about the fact it always have such impact(it can,but far from always be the case),but I understand your logic.

Ines my sister, (for use a example in my home), is failing as woman, firstly to herself.

Which doesn't mean she would not have a happy life and marriage.

Sara2001 She hates her equipment more than I do, but she would never set her free access to her private parts above our family.

Same for several of us here.

Sara2001 We are all very loving and close. We all take care of each other

Necessary for wearing it reluctantly,I think.

HHelen

It doesn't necessarily become excessive.I think it is pretty rare.

HHelen

Vanessa It doesn't necessarily become excessive.I think it is pretty rare.

Not necessary, but she shouldn't be allowed when she wants it.

Raziel Similar to how kids want more candy after trying it for the first time

And they can't eat candies all the time.

Vanessa

HHelen Not necessary, but she shouldn't be allowed when she wants it.

Which is not easy,and wouldn't mean she would do it excessively,even if she can.

By the way,have you started to reduce it at night,too?

a_father

Angelina You are wrong. He hasn't the right to tell who you can date and who not. You are 17, so he even can't stop you dating a 60 year old man. If he told you that, it's a lie.

Joh

Angelina my father has the right under german law to tell me who i can date until i'm 18

I confirm @a_father statement. You father can do it only "in the case of obvious endangerment of the child's well-being".
Which should not be a reason for a ban:
A different nationality, a different faith, a higher/lower standard of living, same-sex love and close relatives. Your relation with Camryn counts already as a close relative and it seen as an important part for your mental health and development.

Angelina it makes absolutely no sense why one is legal and the other isn't and as long as there are major contradictions at this point, it's not acceptable. and to be clear, this is not an argument for the belt, it is only about the contradiction in the law that is unacceptable.

Whit cleared it their is no contradiction. Are you now able to accept the law?

Angelina

a_father

he didn't tell me that, but according to the law he has the "Aufenthaltsbestimmungsrecht" until i am 18, so he can offer it to me.

a_father

Angelina But since you turned 16 in a very limited way. But you turn 18 this year, then he has no rights concerning you at all.

Angelina

a_father But you turn 18 this year, then he has no rights concerning you at all.

he will no longer have the right to decide with whom i meet (normally he doesn't do that anyway, because i am very responsible with this topic myself). but i will still live with him, i will get more rights, but it won't work without rules.

@Vanessa is a good example of what I mean

Joh

Angelina but it won't work without rules.

Nothing again rules. But they should be on a lawful basis and not rip you off with unlawful demands.
My girlfriend an I we have rules for our relation. They are based on negotiant in a fair way knowing the given boundaries from the law. If we decide on a rule which would be outside it would be done from both of us freely and independent.
Your situation is fare away from independent.

Angelina

Joh in the case of obvious endangerment of the child's well-being

that is not exactly defined and can be anything and everything (do you understand my problem with such laws)

Joh Whit cleared it their is no contradiction.

see answer above it is a contradiction

Joh

it is not independent, that is true, but it is fair because each of them was regularly explained by my father, and i can also give suggestions and ideas myself on how to do it better, which in some cases he also accepts

PS: My suggestions are not always in the legal frame, but as I said, this is a PRIVATE MATTER

a_father

Joh It is always a kind of abuse, if there is a power imbalance between two persons and the one with the power makes the rules (in the cases we talk about here, not in the job, where your boss makes the rules and you are paid for your work).

Joh

a_father It is always a kind of abuse, if there is a power imbalance between two persons and the one with the power makes the rules

I don't think so. If both agree to it it is fine. But it can only work if you are sure who has the power use it wisely.

a_father

Joh I don't have a sexual relationship with a 'constructed' power imbalance in mind. I think of something like a father - daughter relationship where the father rules the sexual activities of the daughter. Even if the daughter is an adult it is problematic, if the daughter depends (financially) on the parents.

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